Abraham Hicks: How to Stop Obsessively Thinking About Someone - en

they're conditioned that's got your undivided attention I believe that the

condition that the relationship that I had with this man yes I believe that it

has done my desire for him has what has preoccupied me to the point where I felt

that that is what I needed to feel good and I know that that is not true I

understand that it can never be a condition I understand that better than

I ever have in my life so with that understanding how does one go about

focusing on something other than a dominant condition what kinds of things

hooked you in in other words what is it that keeps you thinking about this

person his demeanor his way there's something about him is he here he's not

in the room no and yet his behavior his demeanor is still occupying your mind

yes and I don't know well it's law of attraction law of attraction is just

giving you the things that you commonly think about but as you get a little

distance between you so that the condition is not so active where you

almost can't avoid it you could start thinking about some other things and as

you think about some other things they can become more dominant you only have

so many hours in a day so much broadcasting on so many subjects so is

it possible for you to find other things other than that to think about yes and I

do so much more than I used to I used to obsess so what do you think the hooks

are what are the hooks all about so are you telling us that this is a

relationship that you want to return to or this is a relationship that you're

happy to be rid of you know that's kind of the thing I feel as if that

relationship has brought me more clarity about the type of man I would like to be

with and there's many aspects of him that I enjoyed so we talked about this

vortex this vibrational reality does it feel to you that any one person or

specifically this person is the path of least resistance for your desires to be

fulfilled through does it feel to you that of all of the

things that this relationship has caused you to desire does it feel like moving

back into that relationship is the path of least resistance to fulfilling all of

those desires no you feel sure about that we can feel that from you and you

said something earlier that lets us know that - so what do you think it is that

causes you to keep looking back will tell you what it is okay and you're not

alone in this almost everybody does something like this but it's that the

manifestations seems more is more real because there's more to see and more to

hear and more to taste and smell and touch in other words the physical

reality feels dominant to you that's why we spend so much time wanting to

convince you that the physical reality is not dominant the non-physical reality

is dominant and that if you can get your attention there that it will morph into

an improved physical reality you just can't get there from there you cannot

look at a segment of life whether it's a personality of someone or whether it's a

relationship that you had you can't spend your time looking at the specifics

of that and at the same time harmonizing with the expansion that you've made

because of that and that's why the hooking in is so strong because the very

person here this this is really a powerful and important thing to

understand the very person that has given you the balance that has caused

the expansion that has contributed so mightily to this new you to this new

vortex to this powerful evolved you is also the person that's keeping you from

moving to neckli yes yes and so if you could be a better selected sister and

we're not putting you down for how you're doing because everyone sort of

observes but if you could be a better selective sister if you could look into

the details of that relationship and just remember the parts you really liked

then those parts that active vibration could then move you more quickly

into a place where this vortex is manifesting into something else that is

pleasing but because there's both wanted and unwanted in that vibration when you

go there for the good stuff you often find the not good stuff too and we want

to say it again it is so natural and normal that the very person that caused

you to take the bounce would be someplace that you want to keep looking

but it is counterproductive so this is where what we have to say to you can

really be of benefit if you can hear us when we say in a very general sense

appreciate this person for the new relationship he helped you to create and

just leave it at that reality the person the sex the memory of that is more

tangible and therefore temporarily more appealing to you than the dream then the

essence then the emotion but this is what we want all of you to get over

because you're what is is keeping you from your what can be yeah you have to

let go of the past and we want to call present manifestation the past in order

to move to what you have already become you want us to tell you the attainment

address of your new partner yes and in doing so we would only be providing

another condition for you to fixate on we want you to find the feeling of that

and feel such satisfaction in the current uncondition of that that you

allow yourself the delicious really glorious experience of being in a

vibrational place where an impulse or a thought occurs to you that leads you to

what you are wanting and this time unlike the last time what you will be

led to will be pleasing in all of those ways not just in some ways do you see

him clearly not the old guy the new guy well we are good at ignoring your

vibrations so we're not seeing the old guy either one of them we're seeing the

new yes that's who I'm really interested in thankfully and I want to get rid of

them but you see your focus contradicts that state and I know because if that

were true you'll be looking more here and less there yeah and so there's this

human thing about just to find this by bashing that I deserve something better

than that but the whole time you're doing that you're getting that you're

holding yourself there so it helps to feel appreciation and you said the words

you helped me to know more clearly what I do want you helped me to know more

clearly and now I'm no more clearly so let's turn this into an unconditional

conversation for just a little while tell us what it feels like to be in this

relationship that you prefer what would that feel like what does that feel like

what does it feel like when you go there it feels resonance and easy and

comfortable and a home now these are really good words and your vibration

harmonizes with them in other words we don't feel resistance within you while

you present yourself in that way yeah give us more juicy and now you went to

juicy you activated some of this oh yeah that was juicy

so just stay a little well the new one should be juicy too it will be yeah I

know it will be but feel how the yearning

came with the latter statements that wasn't there with the earlier statements

in other words feel when you start tipping when you start making it more

conditional than unconditional we get it why you all want to rush back to the

condition but we want to remind you that everything that you want every condition

every relationship every material object every pile of money every single thing

you want every circumstance and events everything that you want to be manifest

the reason you do is because you believe you will feel better in the

manifestation of it and we're not trying to dissuade you from that we're just

wanting to show you the path of least resistance to it because when you fixate

on something that has a whole bag of mixed energy in it it slows you down in

the process toward what you want so if you can avoid doing that just for a

little while by focusing upon the feeling of freedom the feeling of

friendship the feeling of appreciation the feeling of focusing the feeling of

discovery the feeling of adventure the feeling of new the feeling of fun the

feeling of good conversation the feeling of abundance and prosperity and

stability Oh stability the feeling of stability the feeling of homecoming the

feeling of right place right time right person the feeling of wholeness the

feeling of completeness the feeling of synergy the feeling of energy the

feeling of alignment the feeling of friendship the feeling of homecoming the

feeling of well-being the feeling of natural the feeling of normalcy in other

words as you come into alignment with what you've created now you were with us

and with us and with us and with us and then a lonely feeling sort of swept over

you so this is what we're talking about you just got to keep finding that

feeling and when lonely comes find that feeling when lonely comes find that

feeling when lonely comes find that feeling and before long you'll be so

solidly there enough of the time not all of the time enough of the time not all

of the time enough of the time that the fulcrum will

tip and the impulse will be there and someone will come into your experience

and you will both know all right yes