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What if I told you that the way you are chasing love and success is the exact
reason why you don't have either of them? And there are a few key things
that you need to be thinking about in order to attract the things that you
want. Because you'll never find love or wealth if you keep chasing it like this.
And the first thing is to stop seeking and start embodying.
Because you don't attract what you want, you attract who you are. It's a quote by
Wayne Dyer and I love that quote because you don't attract what we want in life.
You attract who you are, what you embody, what what you're made up of. The
energy, the attitude, the thinking that you have, that's a reflection of what
you attract in your life. And if you're ready to start creating the
relationship, to start creating the financial abundance that you want in
your life, make sure to like this video right now and leave a comment saying,
"Yes, I'm ready." in the comments below right now so you can start unlocking
this embodiment for yourself. You want to stop searching for what you
think you're missing and start becoming someone who already has it. So instead
of chasing after a love or a relationship or chasing after money or
something external, we need to start to begin to embody the feelings associated
with already having them. So what does this mean? How do I associate the
feelings of already having a beautiful relationship? A partner who cares about
me? A partner that speaks positivity into me that supports my dreams? That
supports me in becoming a greater version of myself? That supports me in
staying healthy and doing healthy activities that supports me in and dives
into my love language so I feel loved and seen and validated. What does this
mean to embody the feelings associated with already having something like that?
What does it mean to embody the feelings of creating a wealthy life, of having
more financial opportunities, of people with money wanting to come hang out with
me, wanting to surround themselves with me, wanting to teach me, mentor me,
coach me for free, and start creating an opportunities of flow for financial
abundance in my life. What does this mean to really embody the feelings
associated with already having them? An example would be to feel grateful,
feel gratitude, feel appreciation as if you're already in a loving relationship
or you're already in a place of financial peace and freedom. And the way
you can do this is to visualize your life from the destination,
not toward it. Because a lot of times we're we're searching, we're seeking,
and we're striving for something from a destinational place. And we're like,
when I create this thing, when I have the relationship, then I'll feel loved.
Then I'll feel worthy. Then I'll feel enough. Then I'll feel ready to chase my
dreams, ready to take on the next step, ready to step into this greater version
of me. When I have the relationship, or when I have more money, then I can go do
the things that I want to do and start to feel like I'm worthy of more.
A lot of times we are we're not visualizing our life from the
destination. And that's what we need to be doing. Not I'm once I get here then
I'll feel good about me. And this isn't crazy or delusional. It's aligning what
you want with the energy that attracts it. So let me say it one more time. This
is about aligning what you want with the energy that attracts that thing. And for
many years, I was chasing the feeling of a relationship to try to
feel better about me. I was chasing building my business to try to feel like
I was lovable and enough in life and that people would see me and validate
me. So, I wanted to accomplish I wanted to build a following based out of this
wound or based out of the need or the desire of feeling lack. And I
accomplished those things. I was able to get into relationships. I was able to um
build my business and make lots of money. But something felt off
consistently. And it was because I was creating from a lack. I was creating
from a a wounded, needy place to feel like, okay, now I have this thing. I
have this relationship. I have the business growing. Now I can start to
feel better. But the feeling better never came. It didn't come until until I
started to shift this mindset. The feeling better when I had the thing
didn't actually happen. It actually made me feel more insecure, more scarce, more
in lack because I felt like, "Oh, I don't feel what I thought I would feel
by having this relationship, by having this money. Something's wrong with me.
So, let me go make more money. Let me go get more followers to try to fulfill
this this lack inside of me." And I did that for a long time. in my 20s and 30s
and it took me a while to start breaking the pattern that was holding me back.
You don't want to attract anything from a desperation, from neediness or a
wound. You want to attract it from a state of being, a whole state of being
that attracts peacefully. You also want to attract from a place where you feel
like you can say no to everything that comes your way that is not in alignment
with your purpose, your mission, or your greater self. Because when you create a
sense of embodiment energetically and the people that see that within you
are going to be attracted to you, they're going to want to hang out with
you. They're going to want things from you. They're going to want you to be a
part of what they're up to because they want that energy. I don't know if you've
ever experienced this in your life where maybe you've gone to a workshop or
you've gone to a yoga retreat or you've gone on a vacation for a week and you
really just kind of got grounded. You were off your phone. You were learning
something new. You were letting go of a limiting belief that used to hold you
back. Or maybe you went through a breakup and a transformation. Or maybe
you uh got let go from a job, but then you stepped into the thing you wanted to
create. And you were creating from a sense of inspiration. You were creating
from a sense of creativity. You were creating some from a sense of freedom.
You were walking around in life like you were meant to be there. I don't know if
you've ever experienced this or you've been around someone like that. It is
infectious. It is magnetic. It is like you want to be around that person and
people want to be around you. If you know what I'm talking about, leave a
comment. Leave a yes in the comments and like this again just to lock it in.
Because once you realize that everything you ever want is already within you, you
are going to start seeing love, seeing relationships, seeing money and
opportunities come your way. It is going to be a flood, a river of abundance
coming to you. And that's a beautiful thing. But it can be also overwhelming
if you don't have the ability to create boundaries. If you don't have the
ability to be discerning and slow down because sometimes you want to say yes to
everything because it all seems exciting, but then it gets you back into
a place of, "Oh, I'm overwhelmed. I burnt out. I've said yes too quickly
without actually getting to know the people. I I fell in love too quickly in
the first week or two without actually knowing about the person and just
thinking of the idea of the person being amazing, without actually seeing all of
them. And so we need to learn discernment when we start to create from
a place of peace and alignment. And when you can do that, then you can really say
yes and no to the opportunities financially and relationally that make
sense for you. Because everything you've always wanted has always been yours. You
are just finally realizing it when you start to align yourself to healing,
peace, and abundance. And you have to realize what it is you truly want. What
is it that you want? Do you just want a relationship because you feel alone and
you want to feel a sense of love and find someone who can give it to you?
That's not the best place to create from. But if you're feeling you want a
relationship to amplify the joy, the love that you already feel within you,
now we are talking. Now you're you're creating from a space of feeling enough,
feeling good with you and you just want to amplify things. And then you can find
someone who can mirror and match that alignment as opposed to I don't feel
good and this person is going to make me feel better when I'm around them. That
is a recipe for disaster because when you are choosing to be with someone
because they make you feel better and you don't feel good with you, it's
almost always going to be dysfunctional. There's always going to be a bad breakup
because you're creating from a wound. You're bonding from a wound and people
call that trauma bonding. And therefore, it is so hard to unravel. And that's
usually a two to threeyear relationship that gets entangled early on.
entanglement happens and you trauma bond and from a place of bonding you create
connection and connection is a beautiful thing. It's not that you don't want to
create connection with other people, but if you're not creating a connection with
yourself first, if you're not really building relationship with you and
aligning with you and a vision for your life, aligning with your finances,
aligning with with your inner relationship, if you're not aligning and
you only connect with someone out of fear or out of neediness or scarcity,
typically there's going to have to be some healing down the
and you might hurt each other too much where you'll have to let go of the
relationship at some point. I've learned this lesson. I don't know. I I went
through this process many times in many relationships and it's painful. It's not
fun. It's not enjoyable and it's takes a lot of time and energy from you creating
from a space of peace. So once you start to heal and align then you can create
from a space of peace in relationships and in your finances.
So to finalize this first key, train your nervous system to normalize the
state you desire. This shifts your attraction point. And when you start to
align your nervous system as a peaceful safe space, you normalize that state you
desire from peace. I am peace and therefore I attract someone who brings
more peace to my life. Not I am stress. I am overwhelm. And therefore I need to
find someone to help me feel better about me. Man, that's going to attract
from a wounded place. And typically you're going to have to do a lot more
healing work in that relationship or the relationship will end at some point in
order for you to learn the lesson of healing so that you can create again
from a space of a calmer nervous system. So that's the end of the first point for
this. Stop seeking and start embodying. If this resonates with you, if this
supports you, if this unlocks something inside of you, let me know in the
comments. Just say that this is unlocking in something inside of me. And
already in the first key, it's supporting your mission.
The second key we're going to talk about is letting go of the timeline. Let go of
the need of having something right now. This is probably one of the hardest
things. I have been known to be a very impatient person. It's a lesson I'm
constantly learning in a in a in a space that I get to constantly step into. And
when you can let go of the timeline, so much will start to unfold and will start
to accelerate for you. And a lot of times we want things now. We want the
relationship now. We want the healing now. We want the money now. But these
things are meant to have their own timeline. You're not behind. So stop
rushing a timeline that isn't yours. Needing results quickly is a form of
lack. So I want you to trust in divine timing and release the sense of needing
this goal to happen right now. It doesn't mean you don't have to create
urgency in your life. It doesn't mean you're not supposed to work hard on a
daily basis. You are. But needing the results to happen right now is going to
only hurt you in the long run. It's going to make you more frustrated. You
want to live in intentional alignment. And by doing this, things will come to
you so much faster. You don't need things to happen right now because you
are in alignment. And when you are in alignment, you feel like, I know this is
going to come to me at the right timing, the right season when I'm ready, and I
just need to keep doing the the reps, keep taking the actions, and keep
showing God, the universe, my environment, people around me that I'm
ready for this thing. So instead of asking when will I meet someone, ask how
can I deepen my love for life today and my love for myself today? When you do
that, again, you just become a magnet. Like people like want to introduce you
to men and women around the world who think would be a great match for you
because man, you're showing this energy consistently and it's not fake false ego
energy. It's like, I'm good with me. Sure, I would love a relationship, but
I'm not going to get into a relationship if it's not the right timing and not the
right fit. Because you don't want to just give your love to anyone who
doesn't deserve it. You want to give all of your love to yourself and then pour
that out in service of the people around you on a daily basis, whether it be at
your work, whether it be, you know, strangers walking down the street. And
I'm not talking about, you know, loving someone on the romantic side of things.
I'm just talking about loving someone with a smile, with a kind gesture, with
a hello, and being a positive energetic force in your environment and in your
world. But first, you have to do that in your inner world. You have to do the
work to help you heal and know that you are enough, that you are lovable, that
you're worthy of creating that relationship in your life.
I'm going to give you a an example from a business um standpoint here. Early on
in my career, I really wanted to be an author. I really wanted to write a book.
I'd actually written a self uh published book with uh another co-author of mine
and it was in 2009 when I wrote this book and I remember
being really excited to write this book. We printed it. We found the printer, we
uploaded on on Amazon, we did all this work and then I would buy hundred
hundreds of these books at a time in boxes and I would sell them one by one
as I was hosting these kind of networking events around the country.
And I did 20 events within the country um within about 12 to 14 months. And I
would go around the country with boxes of books and I'd sell them one by one.
And I remember thinking, gosh, wouldn't it be amazing to be a a traditionally
published author? And if I'm dreaming big here, wouldn't it be amazing if I
was a New York Times bestselling author? Wouldn't that be just be incredible? It
was like this incredible big goal that I had, this dream that I had that was a
desire of mine. And we should all be dreaming about what we want. This is not
a bad thing to desire something. But when we do it from a place of I need
this right now, uh it's probably not going to work out for us. Long story
short, I I met uh Tim Ferrris's agent early in my career and I was like, "Hey,
I'd love to do a book with you." And I was kind of pitching this to him, but at
the time I had a very small following. My business wasn't doing the what it is
today. And I wasn't ready. Just long story short, the timing didn't line up
for where I was at in my life and where I wanted to be. I wasn't ready. And he
was like, "Hey, you know, you're not ready." Essentially, he told me that.
And I remember kind of feeling down. I was like, "I really want this thing. I
want it to happen now. And wouldn't this be amazing for my ego?" All these
different things. But essentially, I said, "All right, I'm gonna work on who
I need to become, and when the timing happens, it'll happen at the perfect
timing." And years go by, three and a half years go by, and I just say, "I'm
going to start working on myself every day. I'm going to keep working on
myself, developing skills, building my audience, learning about business
better, learning how to write better, learning about marketing better. All
these skills I still need to master. Public speaking better, everything. How
can I build relationships for the right people to promote me when the book is
ready? Because I was doing one by one book sales and I only sold a few hundred
copies of my book in the first year. So I wasn't ready. I didn't have the
platform. I didn't have the relationships. I needed the skill sets.
I needed to be ready to be on TV and do press. I needed all this. I needed all
these things to happen before the next big book. And five years later
essentially he finally comes to me and says hey I
think it's time we do a book together and he reached out to me because we
connected on social media and he saw the journey that I was creating where now
the timing was lining up and I did a massive book deal. We went out and sold
the book. I did a massive book deal. I launched the book. Now my platform, my
audience, my skills, my my confidence within myself was just light years ahead
because I'd done the reps and I taken the action. And by the time the book
came out, it hit the New York Times bestseller list and it was a big hit.
Later, because of that book, I got on the Ellen show. I got tons of press,
Good Morning America, Today Show. All these things lined up at the perfect
timing. Now, five years prior, I really wanted that thing, but I wasn't ready
for it. And I don't know if you've ever had this feeling where you like really
want something. Maybe right now you're like, "Ah, I really want this thing to
happen for me if I could get on talk shows or big press or launch a big
platform." But maybe you're just not ready for it at this moment. It doesn't
mean you won't be ready for it in the future. And so, it's important to create
goals. It's important to have these dreams and a vision, but we've got to be
willing to take the actions every day and be in alignment with what we want
and where we're at. And the timeline that you're obsessing over is often the
very block to what you desire. So, I want you to start shifting this energy,
this timeline. It doesn't mean you can't create something faster, but I want you
to be creating from a place of I have this goal and I yes, I want it to happen
in 6 months, but it may not happen and I don't want to get let down because it's
not happening right now. Instead, focus on what you can control, how you can
show up developing more skills that by the time you're ready for it, this will
come to you. Another thing is when I was broken on my sister's couch, I had a
mentor that I was working with and um I was like, "Man, I could really
use some money right now." And he said, "Money comes to you when you're ready
for it." I was like, "I'm pretty ready to receive some money. I'm pretty broke.
Like, I'm ready." And it wasn't until about a year and a half, two years
later, I actually started making money about a year and a half, two years after
that and I reflected back and I was like, "Oh, had I made a lot of money
back then when I was emotionally bankrupt, I would have blown this money.
I would I was not ready for it." And that's the hardest thing to say when
you're broke and living in scarcity. You you don't want anyone to say this to
you. You're just like, "Shut up. Give me money. I don't want to hear it. I need
this money." And there's a difference from needing something and then being
ready for something. You might need something because you feel like you're
living in fight orflight mode or or survival mode. But when you're ready for
something, it's because you put in the reps. You've started to come from a more
of a patient place. It doesn't mean you're not living in urgency and taking
this the actions, but you're okay with the timeline being when you're ready.
And this is hard. You got to really be trusting God, the universe, whatever you
believe in. You got to be trusting. Okay, I'm going to keep doing the reps
and I'm going to keep adding value to people around me and I'm going to keep
showing up and eventually good things will happen. But if you're coming from a
place of I need this now, usually you're not going to get what you want otherwise
you'll sabotage it. So the timeline you're obsessing over is often the very
block to what you desire. And this is let go of the timeline. Number two,
greatness is serving, transformation, fearlessness,
progress, inspiration, ambition, being grateful for the here and the now.
Real growth happens when you build a community. When you're in a room full of
people who support you becoming your best self. And if that's something
you're looking for, then make sure to join me at the Summit of Greatness live
at the iconic Dolby Theater in Los Angeles down in Hollywood September 12th
and 13th. We have some incredible speakers coming this year like Gabby
Bernstein, Brenda Brousard, Dr. Terara Schwart, and many more surprise guests
and performers. I was very excited to come here and find
my purpose, and I really think I have. Every speaker that came on today, I felt
more and more inspired. the energy. There's just something in the air.
Make sure to get your tickets right now at lewish house.com/tick.
And I can't wait to see you at this year's Summit of Greatness.
The third thing is to replace lack language with empowering identity. Your
problem isn't others holding you down. It's your language blocking your
abundance. It's your language that is blocking your
abundance. I want you to write down a few limiting phrases that you say often.
And this is going to help unlock something for you. I want you to write
them down. You can put them in the comments if you want to below and say,
"Here are some of my limiting phrases." And then I want you to reframe them into
empowering truths. So some of the limiting phrases that people say are,
"I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough. I'm not good-looking enough. I
don't have enough connections. I don't live in the right environment. My
parents hold me back. Whatever it is, I am not what. Write that down as a
limiting thing that you've said in the past. Because your words shape your
reality. They shape them. They shape your personality, which is your personal
reality. What Dr. Joe Despensza says. And so the more you speak something as I
am not this, you are that thing. You are embodying that thing. So you're out of
alignment with what you want, with what you desire by speaking those false
truths. And I am the poster child for speaking
negative self-t talk about me to myself and to others. most of my childhood,
most of my teen years, 20s, and it probably wasn't until my early 30s where
I started to make that shift. And so, if you're in your 20s or your teens or your
30s right now, you know, it's not the end of the world because you can start
shifting this now and start aligning to more positive selft talk. Again, your
words shape your reality. So, I want you to replace I'm broke or I'm unlucky in
love or I'm unlucky with money or any of these limiting thoughts to something
else like I'm learning to manage wealth or I am healing and preparing for
conscious love. So instead of saying I'm unlucky with love or all guys hurt me or
all guys leave me and abandon me or all girls just ruin my life, whatever it is,
I am healing and preparing for conscious love. When you start saying these
things, it doesn't mean you're saying some false affirmation that you're
shouting at the rooftops of I'm worthy of all this love and perfect
relationship. You may not feel that. You may not be ready for that, but you can
be ready for I am healing. I am learning and I'm preparing for conscious love.
Man, what a what a space to create from. What a what an empowering place to speak
into existence versus I'm just never going to figure this
relationship stuff out. Every relationship hurts me. Everyone cheats
on me. Everyone lies to me. Uh I mean I used to say the most horrible things to
myself, you know, that I would never amount to anything that people always
abandon me or abuse me. I just and then I would recreate that in life because
your personality creates your personal reality as Dr. Joe Spence says. So your
identity evolves through your vocabulary. And I want you to speak your
future into the now. So I want you to replace lack language with empowering
identity. That's a big step for all of us. Again, I get it's constant reminder
for myself, but it's a big step for all of us. Number four, heal before you
hunt. Heal before you hunt. You're not being rejected. You're being redirected
to heal. You're not being rejected. You're being redirected to heal. If you
don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you. Ooh,
that's a zinger. I love that quote from Isabella de Bruno, who's the author of a
system of deception. If you don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people
who don't cut you. And again, I've probably done this too many times
in the past. the people that I felt picked on me or abused me or took
advantage of me from childhood stuff. I felt like I let that anger get the best
of me and I reacted in situations and environments when I probably didn't need
to react. And until I started to heal, I started doing less of that. So, chasing
wealth or love from a wound in place leads to sabotage. And I want you to
prioritize emotional healing first. An example of this could be something about
the past within you. If that's that past betrayal still hurts you, I want you to
pause and process it before entering a new relationship or business venture.
So, if you feel like a previous, you know, boss screwed you over or pre
previous employee screwed you over, previous relationship, you know, ended
things with you or lied to you or hurt you in ways that really are still
painful today. Don't just jump into the next thing without processing it before
you enter a new relationship or business venture. If you do that too quickly,
you're likely to bring the wound with you into the future and just be more
guarded from a wounded place rather than being discerning from a healed place.
And there's a difference between guarded and discerning. And when you're guarded,
you're typically it's because you've been hurt and you're still wounded. And
so you're clenching. You're not trusting. You're not engaging. You're
not expressive and open, loving, and joyful because you're worried that
someone's going to repeat what something else happened in the past. This is in
relationships, business, friendships, all these different things.
So, when you pause and start to heal, then you can be discerning. You can
still bring love, joy, excitement, gratitude to a potential relationship or
a business opportunity, but you're not going to say yes because you want to
people please out of a wound. You're going to be discerning and say no if
something doesn't align with the embodiment that you desire and you
currently are. And you're going to start to see the difference. You're not going
to have to say yes to everyone right away. So the key takeaway is a healed
vessel attracts sustainably. A leaking one repels even the good. Key number
four, heal before you hunt. Key number five, seek wholeness, not validation.
Gosh, man. I don't the amount of times that I
seek validation in my entire childhood. I don't even know. I mean, every time I
did that, I'd be like uh, you know, if I got a dollar for every time I seek
validation in some type of moment or opportunity, I'd be a mega millionaire
at this moment because it was just something I always felt like I needed to
do. Is the attention, the validation, am I good enough? Do people like me? All
that people pleasing is freaking exhausting. Love won't complete you. But
when you feel complete, love flows in effortlessly.
Love won't complete you, but when you feel complete, love flows in
effortlessly. True love and abundance flow to those
who are already whole. True love and abundance flow to those
who are already whole, not those seeking to be completed.
And if we're seeking something to feel enough, again, going back to the
beginning of this conversation, to feel like now we're complete, now we're
ready, all these different things, then we're just going to be creating from a
wounded place and it's going to be hurting us along the way. So I want you
to build a life so rich in purpose, so rich in joy, so rich in a presence of
being that anyone or anything that joins it simply enhances your life, they don't
complete it. I want you to build a rich, purposeful, loving, expressive life with
you first so that everyone else around you amplifies, adds to this. This is an
example that Martha told me early on. She goes, "My happiness should never be
dictated based on what you do or you don't do. You should add to my
happiness. I want to come into this relationship happy and whole. And you
just bring me more joy, more like opportunities to amplify and expand my
love and joy for myself and life." And we do that for each other. like she
doesn't need to do anything to make me happy. Sure, she can add to my
happiness. She can support me in challenging times. But if I'm unhappy
and I need her to make me happy, the relationship is wounded. I'm wounded.
And it doesn't mean I'm some horrible person. Like, we all go through seasons
like this. But it's just not going to create the the best version of love, the
best version of business in this space if we're creating from a place of
needing something to make us feel a certain way. So the key t uh action is
that attraction is magnetic when you're not depending on anyone or anything to
fill a void. Again, attraction is magnetic when you don't need anyone to
fill a void. Stop seeking validation.
Seek wholeness, not validation. Key number six is to practice energetic
integrity. The future you dream of won't arrive if
you keep acting like it's not yours. And the tip on this is that every action
should reflect the version of you who already has what you desire. So what
does this mean for you? If you want to be wealthy, don't cheat, hoard, or act
from a place of scarcity. If you want love, don't ghost or lie or manipulate.
One of the biggest lies that they have told you is that there is not enough for
everyone. That resources are limited and instead we should be thinking about
collaboration over competition. We should be thinking about community over
isolation. And we should be really diving into shared knowledge over
keeping everything to yourself. And the key takeaway here is that
integrity calibrates your frequency to your
desires. Misalignment
repels all of it. So we've got to be thinking about integrity. And there's so
many times in my life where I lived out of micro integrity moments. little white
lies, hiding things, you know, holding back on certain things, whatever it
might be. And for whatever reason, that always created more uh of a frequency of
stress and fear and anxiety because I was out of integrity with myself. And
the more I'm in alignment with my integrity,
gosh, things just flow better. And you just you don't have to worry about
anything because you know you're good with you. So that's the key right there.
Integrity recalibrates your frequency to your desires. So the key is to practice
energetic integrity. When you create that alignment energetically inside of
you, gosh, you just become unshakable. You become unfased by what's happening.
It doesn't mean you're not going to feel frustrated at times and you're not going
to have challenging moments, but overall, you just feel like you're good
with you. And I want you to be good with you because then you're going to be good
with other people. And you're going to make better, wiser decisions in love, in
relationships, and in business, in your career. And the seventh key is to make
space. Then stay ready. The universe doesn't respond to need. It
responds to knowing. You don't just want love or wealth. You
want to make space for it physically, emotionally, and mentally. And when you
start to do that, the right things will start to come to you effortlessly. So an
example might be, you know, to clean out your closet for a partner, to set up
saving systems as if money is already flowing. And this is a great example for
my wife Martha as well. Before she met me, she was going on her own healing
journey. She was healing. She was creating a sense of inner peace and
inner freedom. She had gone through different relationships that didn't work
out and realized that she was at the center of all of it and the things that
were hurting her were the things that she was lacking within herself that need
she needed to heal and create wholeness around. And so she went through many
many months of therapy and going on trips by herself and with friends and
reconnecting to the creative person inside of her, the
loving person inside of her, the person that was fearless again. and she got to
that space of feeling whole, feeling good with her, not needing someone, but
wanting someone if it was the right timing and the right person. And she was
moving into a new space. She was energetically shifting things. She got
rid of old stuff. She got she moved into a new space alone and was creating that
space for herself. And she had a a moment where she was at the the store
buying furniture and she was about to buy a bed. Now, she's tiny, right? She's
like 5'2. She's very petite. She could fit in a twin and it would feel like,
you know, a master bedroom bed, right? Um, but something inside of her said,
"Huh, if I'm creating a if I'm buying a twin bed, I'm creating a space that's
only meant for me, even if that's what I want right now, I know I want to create
from a place of having space for a king in my life."
And so she went from not buying a twiniz bed to buying a massive king-sized bed
because she said, "If I want to attract a king in my life or a healthy partner
in my life, I need to make space." So that's available. And she bought a
king-sized bed. And a few months later, maybe it's three, four, five months
later, I showed up in her life. She showed up in my life organically in a
healthy, beautiful way. And she told me that story, you know, after we started
dating. She's like, you know, I bought this king bed cuz I was waiting for you.
And I was waiting for you at the right season and the right timing when I was
ready to attract you. And I go, "Wow, what a beautiful story." You know, you
could have had a twin and we could have been snuggling together on top of each
other in this little tiny bed, but now I get to sleep in a little bit more peace.
We can still snuggle and connect, but then I can spread out cuz I'm a big guy.
6'4. I'm a big guy and I needed that space. So she was thinking ahead of her
future self, what her future self needed at the right season, the right timing of
life and what to attract with creating space. So if you really want love and
you say, "I'm not ready for a relationship." And you tell all your
friends, "I'm just going to be single. I'm not ready for a relationship. I
don't want a relationship." But deep down you truly want love. Then you will
attract people who are not ready for a relationship. And you'll probably get
into a relationship over time because you truly do crave connection and
intimacy and and and fun with others and friends and loving intimacy and romance.
You want that. But even though you say, "Nah, I don't want that." But deep down
you do. So if you get into a relationship from that space of nah, I'm
not ready, then you're going to attract someone who also isn't ready. And you're
probably just going to use each other until it unwinds. It either entangles or
it unwinds. And then eventually you're going to be like, "What are we doing?"
And I've done that way too many times. So I know the pain that that comes from
that. And again, money comes to you when you're ready for it. A relationship
comes to you when you're ready for it. The right opportunities and your dreams
come to you when you are ready for it. Your environment reflects your
readiness. So prepare like it's on the way. This is number seven. Make space
then stay ready. You are perfectly set up. You're perfectly ready to
attract the love, the relationship, the money that you want. It's all within
you. But you have to be willing to do the healing work so that you can align
what you want with the timing of your life. And maybe the timing right now is
that you're not ready to have the big dream, the big desire, the big
relationship that you want for a long time. whether you want an accomplishment
or you want a romantic partner. It took me 37 38 years until I met my
wife. And I just wasn't emotionally ready. I wasn't emotionally aligned
because I was afraid of doing the healing work. I'd done healing work in
other areas of my life, but not in relationships. Same thing around money
and business. I was creating a business. I was urgently going for money out of a
wound of not wanting to be broke. And I made a lot of money, but then I would
make sabotages. And it was still living in scarcity at times because I felt like
ah if I don't do more now, then I'll always go back to broke. I made poor
financial decisions based on that fear and those insecurities. So I just
created more stress than needed in both relationships and love and money and
business. And I don't want you to make the same mistake. So, I want you to
share below in the comments which one of these seven keys speaks to you the most
in your life right now. Which one do you need to step into? Write below which one
through seven is the most important thing for you. And then I want you to
take action on this. I want you to step into it and take action on it every
single day this week and start creating from a space of wholeness, of enough,
and of feeling ready for it in the right time. Cuz you'll never find love or
wealth if you keep chasing it like you've been chasing it in the past. And
these seven keys are going to support you in attracting love and wealth from a
healthy space where you can sustain it for years to come. If you enjoyed this
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something, the more you're going to pay attention, the more you're going to
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